How can a mom be an individual and a good parent at the same time?

Question by Sticky: How can a mom be an individual and a good parent at the same time?
Why is my husband angry at me for trying to explore my talents and finish school? My goals sidetracked at 17 by getting married, 4 mos pregnant w/ my son. I refused to be a “white-trash statistic”, so he never saw a TV. Undivided attention to my “role” and teaching him kept me busy. By age 3, his reading, writing and math skills were at 4th grade level. My efforts yielded a gifted, happy 9yr old boy and 4yr old girl I’m 27 and getting to the “now or never” phase of my life. Within 6 months, I steadily model (published/paid), record music (negotiating a contract), and selling my artwork!
I’m productive and successful! NO responsibilities are neglected, I am gone one evening and half Saturday every week. I feel that everyone wins – my kids do artwork with me and still get most of my time. Husband #2 is now nasty to me and wants me to stop pursuing a career. 5 years of marriage to a frigid, inactive workaholic has been painful and lonely. Am I being selfish trying to “define” myself?
Stormy – POOR kids? Lol! They don’t have problems w/ sight or any other functions. And I don’t have a blackboard and two desks with them chained by the feet. They are normal kids with friends and toys – just smarter. I just opted for teaching through ART and play, instead of letting TV be their teacher. You either don’t have kids or are trying to justify lazy parenting.
My “poor kids” also don’t eat fast food, I guess I should be ashamed – depriving them of eating greasy slabs of beef by-products laced with fecal matter??
…Ignorance can be overcome sweetie, just takes effort.

Best answer:

Answer by cole
you know what… you go out there and be who you want to be, and if he can’t understand that then let this man go.. You are you and you are gonna be who you want to be and pursue what you want in YOUR LIFE. cause it’s your life… I say go for it, and good for you for trying to be something instead of nothing… You don’t neglect your kids, or your husband for that matter so he should step aside… Your life is about you and how you make it, don’t let him rule your life and make your decisions for you! Good Luck I wish you the best

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