If you can spare some thoughts on this unusual situation PLEASE?
Question by aww man: If you can spare some thoughts on this unusual situation PLEASE?
I have to get this off my chest, long story….I like a girl who is dating 3 guys, one went to jail and might stay there, one is a music producer and one is some average dude.
So she kinda found out I am dating other women, and after that happened she decided to tell me all about her life and how guys have hurt her. One guy did some “scarred for life” (she didn’t tell me what, but she did say he also cheated) stuff to her, and he is still after her. She finally fell for a guy and he ended up in jail 2 days ago. This music producer guy is rich and famous but he is not always around and i asked her if she likes being one of many of his girls and she said “i know he has different women in different areas, and you are right, i shouldn’t be just ONE of his girls” Plus he is like 40 (she is 21).
Anyway mad problems and stuff, but I still like her,and let me add that I don’t care if it fails, ill move on, but I would really like to pursue her, and let me tell you why.
This girl is seriously damaged, and it doesn’t turn me off one bit. We talked for about 2 hours while she was driving me somewhere today. Eventually I told her that she should cheer up and I said she is mad cool, and she should stop being so harsh on herself and being so insecure(she said she is the VERY jealous type). She should stop attracting losers and let a real man take over, and I keep telling her all these qualities to look for in a guy and she agrees. I never mentioned me, but im thinking now to mention it. She admit she plays hard to get today, and that she didn’t give one damn about the guy who is in jail, and she was like “I wanted to see how long he will stick around, well she ended up falling in love with him, and me and that guy have nigh similar attitude and personality. She was like “I got to know his personality, he was so caring”
I know its not worth the trouble, and yeah Im dating a few girls(just fwbs), but I want to win this challenge and also make her life better, most will say it is not worth it, well I think it is. What do I do to get her to see that I am someone that will be there for? HONESTLY FOR REAL, should I ask her out tomorrow? Or should admit that I like her and that if she is free one of these nights this week that we could hang out? OR should I be like “I forgot to pay you for the ride yesterday, and I said ill make it up to you, so let me take you out one of these nights for dinner” (I did call and tell her ill make it up to her)
Or should I wait till July 1 when the guy in jail finds out his final sentence. She said she will wait for him if its 1.5 years, but I told her if its 3+ years, its just not fair for her, and she is like yeah. Unluckily the guy is definitely looking at a mandatory 3 years.
Also for people that say he might get out of jail and come after me, he told her to move on, and I am not afraid of NOBODY. Sorry for the long read, but please I had to let that off my chest, and some advice is appreciated.
Best answer:
Answer by Gernot S
She sounds like a heap of trouble. Move on and let her mess up her life – that’s what she is doing so far, and you may not enjoy being a knight in shining armour trying to rescue her if she doesn’t want to be rescued.
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